Even as a brand new Christian, I always enjoyed hearing the many verses speaking about God’s delight in us—his creation. Even now, while I’m writing this, I’m listening to Overwhelmed by Big Dady Weave.
“I delight myself in you.”
What a sentiment.
Even dealing with this stomach bug, I’ve been trying to work as much as possible. Sitting in my home office, I often get to watch my kids playing in the backyard. As cliché as it sounds, nothing makes me happier than watching my kids play and enjoy life.
I’m not a frivolous person. And I don’t believe my delight in my children (or God’s in all people) is frivolous.
If anything, I think it’s compelling evidence that one of our chief priorities in life should be to make a family. Find a spouse, get married, and have and raise children.
Nothing in life will give you the satisfaction, the sense of purpose, and the personal fulfillment of maintaining a marriage and building a family together.
NOTHING.
I know there are plenty of people who disagree. Those people are what’s known as wrong.
I’ve made a household income of under $30K and over $200K. I’ve lived in tiny shoebox apartments and beautiful 4500 sq. ft. with every amenity. None of those things mattered a fraction as much as the people I shared those experiences with—my family.
There are so many people deeply dissatisfied with their lives in our county. It’s not because they don’t have fancy enough cars, big enough homes, or high enough salaries.
It’s because culture has set them down the wrong path, pursuing things that were never going to satisfy their basest desires. Men want a woman to love, protect, honor, and cherish. Women want a man to love, satisfy, and please. Husbands and wives want to have, care for, and raise children.
These desires are grafted into our very souls. It’s what we were created to do. So many have traded the truth for a lie. Just get those degrees first…then find a spouse. Just climb to this point in the corporate shuffle, then start the family.
And my all-time least favorite just get a dog…a pet is the same as having a child.
Katherine Anne Porter said
“There seems to be a kind of order in the universe…in the movement of the stars and the turning of the Earth and the changing of the seasons. But human life is almost pure chaos. Everyone takes his stance, asserts his own right and feelings, mistaking the motives of others, and his own.”
There’s a lot of wisdom and observation in her statement. Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.” Things don’t have to be chaos.
There is an order to the universe. Stop trying to take God’s ordered universe and create disorder and chaos. We spend so much time fighting the good and well-ordered nature of things for our own stupid, selfish reasons, and we haven’t even taken the time to build strong and compelling arguments for why our way is better. We just say, “because I want it.”
Give me a freakin break.
Be an adult. Get married. Have kids. Build a flourishing society.
Rinse and repeat.
Best,